i like to think i have a very well-balanced sense of reality. that the 'proper' upbringing i've received, the hardcore Christian education, the rigid church traditions, and my large amount of common sense mean that my perception of reality just makes sense. why would it be wonky?
i also know that my perception of reality is different from yours. i understand that i am sticky about me being right (and so are you!)...but i'm willing to let you think you're right, for the sake of peace and happiness. i like to think it's a sign of maturity, that i can decide not to fight these battles---you'll figure it out one day. and if you don't, you'll be happy in your little world. and i'll be happy in mine.
but i absolutely can't stand the fact that i break the rules in my own reality to make room for your happiness. why should i bend over backward all the time? why does my mature grasp on the world mean that i give in to your immature, selfish little worldview? i'm ok with making space for you, but if you're not going to consider making space for me, then just piss off already.
i absolutely can't stand the idea that i don't exist to you. not because i really want you to know me...but because how outrageously immature and selfish are you that you can't even politely acknowledge another person for who they are.
and i hate how immature i am about this thing.
why, why, why am i so angry about this.
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because it's angering.
My higher-ups in my company have narrow views like you described, and I have to let them stay that way because I'm not in a position to correct them.
Is it a sign of maturity to see that someone believes something False, and allowing them to continue? Or is it a sign of not caring? That's the question I struggle with.
I don't know. I've been realizing that conflict resolution, when applied correctly, would be the most mature thing to use in this situation, but not necessarily the most appropriate thing. Like higher-ups who 'need' correcting...compared to peers who are actually holding a group back from its potential because of their inability to recognize the legitimacy of someone else's beliefs.
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